On LSS: Love, Self-Discovery, and Serendipity

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For the first time in 4 years that I have dreamt about my ex. It was weird. I was not able to fully recollect what my dream was about but what I can remember was the scene where I am already in the arms of another man- tall, moreno, with googly-doe eyes, very handsome with a resemblance of Donny Pangilinan, and a very sweet one, too. 

It was like me saying goodbye to everything in the past and moving forward to a new romantic chapter in my life. And then, I woke up realizing that I don't have a romantic partner, but all I knew was that I am ready to fully open my heart again. 

Does that mean for three years, I haven't moved on? -- Of course, I have moved on. I was even the one who initiated the breakup because I had a strong desire to look into my core and find out who I am, what I wanted to do in life, my likes and dislikes without worrying about what my then boyfriend, friends, family, or other people would think, without the people pleasing in short. 

I wanted to I focus on my growth and live with no regrets. I knew at that time even up to now that I wasn't ready to settle down and that my idea of settling down is unlikely the common societal norm of settling down.

Had I not dated anyone within those three years? I did and it was fun dating or more of building a network of connections- I didn't mean this in a negative way. I appreciate meeting new people over coffee or wine. It broadened my horizon on life's perspective. Also, it had helped me discover the qualities that would match my personality and vice versa. I now know when to draw boundaries, to spot red flags, and when to leave. 

In my current journey of knowing, loving, and prioritizing ones self, it is safe to say that I am full of love and ready for whatever's to come, romantically.

Photo by Kássia Melo: https://www.pexels.com/photo/pages-of-an-book-folded-into-a-heart-15591237/


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